We all want our children to be happy, but whilst there are no guarantees, there are some things we can all do to help them to grow into happy and confident adults. It can be so hard to know how to strike the balance between giving them what they want and making them happy in the short term, and raising them as well-balanced people. Here are 5 tips to raising happy children:
Define the boundaries.
All kids need boundaries. Decide early on, what the rules of your house are, and stick to them. Kids feel safe when they know what’s expected of them, and most kids do actually want to please their parents.
Listen to your kids
They may talk about all sorts of rubbish some times, but they’re talking to you because they want you to listen to them. Not only will they feel like their voice is heard (and therefore not have to play up to get your attention!) but it will bring you closer together.
Have fun with your kids
It only takes a moment to tickle a tummy, or tell them a joke. Do something they’re not expecting, or something silly. Kick a ball with them, jump on the trampoline, make a yummy treat in the kitchen, or just hang out and giggle and chat. They will love it, and so will you.
Get the atmosphere right at home
Think about the sort of atmosphere you’d like to cultivate, and what would be best for you and your children. Then set about achieving it. It’ll be hard work at first, but it will be worth it. Aim high, but don’t expect miracles straight away.
You are the greatest role model in your childrens’ lives, so smile and show them how to be happy, and try to be calm and relaxed in front of them… if you can.
And one last thing – saying “yes” to every demand will NOT make them happy.